Dear 30+ single women – advocate woman, by Ifenla Oligbinde

Do you know that this phase of your life is probably the most defining stage? Where you have made relationship mistakes in your 20s, you are NOW more knowing, hopefully discerning, and convinced about the kind of man you will do life with AD INFINITUM. You are very self-confident, self-aware, and you know values you can never compromise, which you have settled within yourself.

But…

When you are about to make that DESTINY CHANGING decision, be mindful that the man who wins your heart isn’t a wolf in sheep skin, a full blooded hunter who has an agenda – to win, conquer, subdue, enslave your voice, especially your voice that advocates for women inclusion and finally, BREAK and HUMILIATE you. Truth is, there are several men out there who are drawn to your light and “calling.” They would even join you in heralding, amplifying and advocating for women in all sectors. They say and do everything, but in their heart lies the bedrock of narcissism.

You see this hunter kind of men? They specifically hunt strong women like you, not “frail,” but VOCAL women who champion the voices of other women. Tendering is never their goal: not to tender but to tear. Their intention is to beat you into a pulp; to crush and squash you. They know that when they have you where they want you to be, shame will be your number one tormentor: the shame of people knowing that you of all people fell for a MANicured lie; that you, who once shone light against women prowlers is caught in the snare of a prowler.

Not all women-advocate parading men, actually, and sincerely think women deserve a seat anywhere. These types are dangerous because you can be easily blinded without a “three-in-one” eye.

As you joyfully tick those boxes in the man of your dreams, BE LED into KNOWING that the boxes are:
♦real
♦genuine
♦credible
♦original
♦authentic
♦reliable
♦trustworthy, dependable, and ALIGNS with your own beliefs and convictions. He is out there, just BE LED. If you are patient and discerning, you will meet the king who is deserving of your light: to whom you will revere. He will not destroy your voice or dim your light.

Remember, RED FLAGS NEVER TURN GREEN.