Marriage by Choice: Beyond the unrealistic expections, by Daniel Adeola Aderounmu

Marriage is a choice—a journey too personal and sacred to be bound by expectations or checklists. Are you ready to make it your own?

Marriage isn’t a box to tick or a perfect match to find; it’s a commitment grounded in love, choice, and understanding.

As you embark on this path, it’s essential to remember that even family can only guide and bless—they can’t decide for you. The ultimate choice lies with you.

For those seeking a life partner, here are some guiding principles that look beyond perfection and delve into values that promote lasting love:

1. Look for Relativity – Spiritual Relativity
Find someone who shares your faith and values. If you’re a follower of Christ, seek a partner who also walks in the light. “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers” (2 Corinthians 6:14) reminds us that shared spiritual ground enriches every aspect of life together.

2. Adaptability Over Compatibility
Life requires flexibility. While compatibility is nice, adaptability is essential because it considers both the strengths and weaknesses of who to marry.

Seek someone willing to grow with you through life’s twists and turns, rather than just finding a mirror of your interests.

Adaptability will be your anchor in times of change.

Stay tuned for Part 2, where we examine the strength of unity, the importance of maturity, and the enduring power of love!

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©️ Daniel Adeola Aderounmu
Young & Family Influencer,
TLWF & Family Ministry.